As you learn more and talk more about healthy relationships, it may happen that youth or other adults will tell you that they are experiencing violence. Here are five questions that you can ask to provide support and connect the person to a good resource:
- Are you in danger?
- Are you hurt?
- Do you feel safe at home?
- Are there weapons at your house?
- What do you want to happen next?
Keep contact information readily available
If a young person discloses that they are in an abusive situation, you’ll want to help connect them to resources.
- Save the phone number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline in your phone.
- Print off emergency contact cards and keep one with you.
- You can make your own cards with the following information, or print this template.
Create a Random Acts of Kindness calendar
Performing even the smallest act of kindness creates a sense of goodwill and elation1, and thoughtfulness in a relationship communicates to your partner that s/he is important to you. Create a calendar of daily small actions to express kindness to your significant other to foster a respectful and happy relationship. You can get ideas for your calendar from the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation.
1. Taylor, Steve. “Elation: The Amazing Effect of Witnessing Acts of Kindness.”Psychology Today. November 15, 2013. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/out-the-darkness/201311/elation-the-amazing-effect-witnessing-acts-kindness-0 Accessed 2016.